What do we mean by growing up? Is it a process in which we follow a predetermined path, the direction of which being set in stone by our predecessors? Is it a process of learning to do what others before us have done and in doing so declaring their truth to be “the way?” If that were the case, the question to be asked is whether we would be here at all. How do we grow up, if at all? Is it purely a matter of getting older? Very often we hear people speak of responsibility, when referring to growing up. Perhaps there is more to this than originally meets the eye. If growing up entails finding one’s own way, we have to realize that we initially have no means of differentiating between that which we perceive happening around us and our way, meaning that we learn from what others show us, not only through conscious choice but through unconscious behavior. We lack the skills of recognition and choice. We do not recognize that our way is a reproduction of our peers and social surroundings therefore denying us the choice of behavior. As we move through life we experience that which we have learned to expect. Through unconscious behavior we develop conscious expectations which, of course, we confirm through our unconscious behavior. And so, we write our own stories, more or less, unconsciously, repeatedly confirming the ideas that we, as children, were shown. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying; “same shit, different day”, well, that pretty much sums it up. What if you were to take the time to reflect over your life experiences, would you be able to recognize the pattern that you have lived, up until now? Are there certain things that appear to have happened time and again, do you make the same so called mistakes over and over again? Is there something or a theme in your life that is seemingly ever present, in one way or another?
It can be related to anything; relationships, health or wealth. The majority of us have a theme in one or more of the aforementioned areas in life, or so it may seem. When we, however, cut through the superficial wrappings, we can identify the cause as unconscious behavior based upon conscious expectations that, in turn, stem from an unconscious, conditioned belief.
Perhaps you would like to take the time to ask yourself, whether there is something in your life, that exerts an over powering drain on your resources, at regular or irregular intervals. Perhaps you would like to do it right now. You might, on the other hand, decide to leave it until later, which is, of course, what you have always done, which, of course, has led to the results that you currently experience, in your day to day existence.
I’m sure that you have heard it said; there is no time like the present, well, this is all about your time, isn’t it? It’s about your present and how you live your present. I could also ask, if you want your present and just how thankful are you, for your present? Are you so thankful that the only appropriate expression of thankfulness would be to make the most of what and who you are? Just supposing that you are thankful, wouldn’t you owe it to yourself and your world, to take the time and energy to consciously reflect upon your way of life, to determine whether it really is your way of life or that of another or others?
What have you learned in your life, what is really important to you and you alone and do you act or behave accordingly? If not, why not? What must happen for you to be true to yourself and your present? Is this growing up, is this taking steps to transcend the adopted fears and beliefs of others, to find your own? Perhaps in finding our own beliefs, we could also transcend our own personal fears, which, of course, are rooted in a perception of life, which is seen through the eyes of unconsciousness. Is growing up about accepting that the “feedback” of life is not personal but relevant to behavior, based upon belief? That being the case, what can we do to promote the process of growing up? Is there any way of accelerating the experience of recognition of self and system, the system, of course, being life? Perhaps if we understand the full implications and potential of our experiences, we might just be able to speed up
the learning that is deemed necessary for the acceptance of conscious being.
Perhaps if we decide to accept the necessity of self-responsibility, as a prerequisite for definitive growth, we can make definite steps in the direction of success, whatever that might be. Let us take time to ask ourselves what we actually mean by self- responsible. What if we mean the full acceptance of self as the source for and of experience?
Are we able to let it be? Are we capable of realizing that our inner-sense is the determinate factor for our experience? What if we were to understand that it is entirely upon each and every one of us to accept our inherent gift of creation before we can feel the creation itself? This question of responsibility is, to my mind, the most decisive factor for personal success, we have been given the gift of conscious being, it us our decision what we do with it. Self-response-ability could be the ability to respond to self, the ability to answer my own questions of being and to live accordingly. What is the conception that leads to perception? Where does it all start and where does it lead to? You decide!
So, what do you believe of yourself, what do believe of Life itself? What do you want to believe of yourself and Life? What do you want to be in Life, what do you want Life to be?
